I usually try to structure and edit my blogs really well. I usually try to keep things interesting, my language creative and colorful. I try my best to write my feelings down using the most precise and appropriate words but today’s blog post is a little different…
I was on Facebook and someone expressed on a post that they were suppressing and struggling with healing from childhood/emotional/inner child wounds. This is something I’ve been working on lately.
There’s really little to no editing on this. I just figured that the message and the point are far more important here than diction and wit.
This has helped me release so much emotionally and has provided me with a fresh start, feeling better than ever. I hope it may have the same effect on you.
So… ready to dive in? Let’s go.
How to heal the emotional wound?
The only way you can release it is to confront it.
Writing is an excellent tool when it comes to healing. Do free association writing, basically writing every thought that comes to your mind.
Self empathy. I’ve been practicing emotional self healing. I do this through writing.
Pick a time you are completely alone and free at home. A day where you are relaxed and undisturbed.
Beginning with a meditation may help. Do whatever helps you get into that state best. Music is helpful. I listen to singing bowls, nature sounds, spa/meditation music. You can find them on YouTube as well if you don’t have a streaming service membership. You can also light a candle. Exercise before hand. That may help you relax before you start the meditation.
Then… I call on that memory intentionally and try to relive it.
It’s scary, yes.
But in order to heal, you’re going to need an open mind and you have to be willing to try things that may seem hard at first, but are for your higher good.
The moment I feel any emotion, I freeze and label it. That emotion is the wounded child speaking to you. It’s tugging at your sleeve. It wants your attention.
Tell them that they have every right to feel the way they do. Tell them that you love them, are not here to judge, how it is that you can help?
If you can’t remember the memory, that’s okay. Keep writing. You’ll be surprised what you might reveal to yourself.
Vent from the emotion the inner child is feeling. Let yourself feel that emotion and write down how everything in that moment.
Allow yourself to get mad. Being angry doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s normal and a human emotion you cannot help. The problem is what you choose to do with that anger, how you choose to express yourself.
Allow yourself to break down, allow yourself to cry. It’s not a bad thing. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Crying is a normal, human experience and is just as natural as going to the bathroom. Matter of fact, anyone who knows me well knows that I refer to it as “Taking an emotional shit”. It just needs to get done.
The problem is what you were conditioned to think crying was and meant. You were raise to think crying was something to be ashamed of, a sign of weakness or something to mock.
Never let anyone make you feel that way. What’s easy is pretending your pain doesn’t exist. It takes way more strength to acknowledge your pain exists and to move on from it. Anyone who has gone through that process knows that.
Crying is healing. You are flushing out the emotional waste. You’re purging the trauma and cleansing.
Tell the inner child that you are sorry that that experience happened to them, that there was no one there to protect them. That you love them. That you’re here to protect them. You need to validate that inner child. It’s so important.
After that, ask what it is at that moment, you can do to make that inner child happy, and allow only healthy coping mechanisms as an option.
Sing, dance, go for a walk, maybe to the park. Exercise, write, read. Watch something funny. Something that’s going to make you feel good.
Guarantee that after you do this, you’ll feel better. You took the power away from that memory and it will never have that sort of effect on you from that point on.
I’m sorry for the novel. This is the way I have been processing and moving on from the trauma I’ve experienced and worked wonders for me.
Candace Van Dell is an amazing youtuber. Watch her videos on emotional healing and validating the inner child, how to control your emotions. She helped me so much.
If you try it out, and it doesn’t work out, that’s okay. Not everything works for everyone.
If you’re committed to your healing process, but feel you are not in a space to go that deep yet, don’t feel bad or be hard on yourself.
This sort of thing is called a process for a reason. It takes time. As long as you commit to loving yourself to the best of your abilities, you will find the best healing mechanism that works for you.
Meditate on it, you might find it may come to you ❤️
Have a wonderful day, until next time 💫